Cropped Denim

It had been months since I had done some in-store shopping, and maybe I was not looking in the right places, but nothing online appealed to me at all. It was all dead Christmas stock, with one or two introductory new line pieces. I was tired of looking at the same jumpers and knitwear from last season, I was looking for something fresh and revitalising.

On my trip back from the gym, being the only time I head into town, I quickly popped into Zara. It was only meant to be a 5 minute scan of the new lines, 5 minutes very quickly turned into 40 minutes.

I spotted this cropped Zara Denim Jacket and immediately remembered a denim jacket a vlogger mentioned on Youtube. I checked the price tag – £29.99 – shocking I know- and immediately took an M and L to the changing room, along with some other pieces. I was already sold on the jacket, just wanted to get the right size. I went for the more oversized L, as I wasn’t looking for a fitted look and the rest is history.

The sun was shining one day and of course I leapt for it. It’s a bit chilly to be worn on it’s own at the moment, but it’s a nice indoor piece when in the library or in lectures, until summer comes on by.

It’s perfect because it can be worn super-casually, or dressy-casually. Collect it before the price goes up!

Choker – Missguided – sold out 😦 alternative £5.00

Cropped Denim Jacket (my favourite!) – Zara – £29.99

Ribbed Maxi Dress – Missguided – sold out 😦 midi alternative £28.00

Non-branded White Trainers – ASOS – sold out, but can pretty much purchase anywhere – suggestion £20.00

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Forgiveness for Happiness

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Hey people,

What’s poppin’? Hope you’re having a nice weekend; maybe extended Valentine’s weekend? Maybe a pamper weekend for yourself?

Is it just me who feels like people are constantly trying me? I am trying my best to be a child of God, to be a good person, but people do not want it. Why?

Today I am encouraging you to forgive; not for the person you are forgiving, but for yourself. When you’re upset, angry or annoyed, you’re unable to do your work effectively, everything annoys you, all of a sudden you cannot see the positives, all you see is red. Why?

Because holding a grudge takes work. Being angry takes energy. Being annoyed and upset takes away from your happiness.

By deciding to forgive someone who has acted wrongly against you, you are not only taking the emotions of the situation into your control – by ‘being the bigger person’ – but you are acting out of self-love, to maintain your happiness (Did you read my self-love post? Get it? If not, check it out).

Of course, it would be nice if the wrongdoer apologised; but you cannot always wait for an apology. It may take someone weeks, months or years to apologise, and during that time they’re a draining your energy, draining your positivity – we quite simply don’t have time for that. This means that sometimes, you have forgive, before you receive your apology, even if you know you may never receive it.

True forgiveness does not make you weak-willed. Nor does it mean that if it is a friend you’re forgiving, you go back to being best friends; or if it is a partner, you go back to having a dreamy, rosy relationship. I do not know who came up with “forgive and forget”, I understand the concept, but I disagree. For one’s own emotional protection, it would be foolish for you to forget; but true forgiveness allows you to move forward from the negative emotion, so much so that you are still aware and proceed with caution if you do, but you do not use it as ammunition for ‘pay-back’ or vengeance.

It is also worth remembering that none of us are free from wrongdoing. We have done wrong to others before; it would be nice to be forgiven too, wouldn’t it?

Forgive wrongdoers, control & maintain your happiness.

For my believers: Christ calls on you, to move past an “eye for an eye” (Matthew 5:38) and “love your enemies”(Matthew 5:44). Why? Embodying a Christian identity requires us to go the extra mile. It is easy for us to love those who care for and love us; but it takes more for an individual to forgive those who do wrong towards us; especially those who do not recognise their wrongdoing. Anyone can love someone who shows love for them, it takes a special individual, a child of God, someone with a certain spiritual strength, to truly forgive and love those who do wrong to them.

Similarly, remember that we are not free from sin. It would be rather bold of us to ask God for forgiveness for the number of sins we commit daily, the grave sins we commit regularly, time and time again; but yet refuse to forgive someone who does wrong to us. Some food for thought.

There it is folks, forgive and stay happy 🙂

Remember…you are destined for greatness.

PS: If you haven’t, check out my last post on self-love & my fashion posts too if you want x

Be your first Valentine

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Hey guys,

Happy Valentines Day, weekend, week, month…whatever for whenever you’re reading this lol.

St. Valentine’s day is recognised as a day of love, devotion and romance. Since the mid 18th century the commercialisation of Valentine’s Day has grown; with it being the second largest seasonal card sending time of the year. Aside from the card writing, gift giving and love making, Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to show yourself some love.

First and foremost, if you don’t love yourself, you cannot love somebody else. Why, because you cannot give someone else something that you don’t have.

Secondly, loving yourself is your power.

To truly love yourself allows for true happiness. Internal happiness comes from loving yourself for who you are, the perks, and the not so pretty. When you love yourself, there is no one that can take that away from you. If you are internally happy, although external factors may attempt to diminish this happiness, no one can take away happiness that comes from within you, apart from you – this is part of your power!

No one really teaches you how to love yourself. I  truly started to love myself when I came to university. A time when I vowed to uphold myself highly. Partly because I didn’t want to get lost in the sauce of university ‘demons’, but also, because I wanted what I saw in other people. I wanted to have a strong sense of identity and self-confidence; these were (and are) things that I admired in the character of others.

To have a strong sense of identity requires spending time with yourself, knowing what makes you happy, excited, sad or angry. You can only be confident in something that you know well, something you have worked on, something that you trust. You’re not going to be confident on stage performing a routine you haven’t spent time on. Similarly, you are not going to be confident in yourself, if you do not spend time on building yourself, your character and set yourself up for achieving your goals (sometimes even working out what those goals actually are).

Self identity and confidence are part in parcel with loving yourself. Sometimes, it is easier said than done; especially where your ‘flaws’ lie. (I put flaws in inverted commas because your flaws may be another persons wish). Nevertheless, self-love is a journey worth taking.

My top tips for self-love: Self-affirmation, celebrating your successes and ‘me-time’

  • Self-affirmation – Tell yourself you love yourself. In the mirror. Before you go to bed. When you wake up. Speak self-love into your heart, mind and soul.
  • Celebrate your successes – not everyone sees your successes, especially the small ones. When you do something good, even if it is simply an extra 10 sit-ups at the gym, tell yourself well done. It feels good when someone else congratulates you, so congratulate yourself.
  • ‘Me-time’ – You cannot love someone you don’t know. Set aside time to spend away from social media. I specify social media because it is the nest of comparison. Comparing your pictures to an american ‘instagram baddie’ is not going to make you feel better. Nor is comparing your twitter feed to the guy tweeting about his new balenciagas, new Audi and the ‘babe’ he’s taking to the Shard for dinner. (Don’t forget that people mostly share their highlights, what they want you to see.) Aside from that, read a book, listen to music, even look through old photos – old photo’s, snapchats and video’s are the best.

When you love yourself, not cockinesses, but confidence beams from you. People can see that you ‘know your sauce’ (know yourself, know your worth). You’ll radiate love and happiness because that is what is within you.

So today, I want you to do a little something for yourself. Once you’ve done that little something, in the spirit of giving, show a little love to someone else.

For my believers: You are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139: 14) in God’s image. God took his time designing you just the way you are. As you are made in His image, if you truthfully love God (first commandment – Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind” – Matthew 22:38) you should love yourself. It is only then, that you can ‘love your neighbour as you love yourself.’ (Matthew 22:39). Remember you cannot love someone who you do not know, put time aside to spend with God daily; in this time you grow love for yourself, God and others.

Be your first Valentine. It may sound selfish, but if you’re not good, you cannot make anyone else better. If you don’t truly love yourself, you cannot truly give love to anyone else.

Peace & Love

x

The Struggle is ONLY Temporary

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I’m back and I’m better!

Am I still allowed to say that? Or is Bryson too 2016?

Anywhoms, I’m back after a very testing period of this university lifestyle. And following my ‘stress is not my portion‘ post I thought, it was only fair to share my stressful moment too; because I’m not out here picking daises and chilling, life is trying it with me too!

Approximately a week ago, dooms-day arrived i.e. Dissertation deadline day. For the last 5 days before my deadline, I was looking like Krusty the clown featuring Nanny McPhee. In the library all hours. Shifts ending while the birds were chirping. No word of a lie, I didn’t necessarily know what day of the week it was, I just knew that my deadline was Xdays and Xhours away. The only thing that was keeping me going was the fact that, I knew in Xdays and Xhours it was going to be over.

During times of struggle, whether that may be financially, emotionally or physically, a reminder that your struggle is only temporary is the most important reminder of them all! For example, we all know about the struggle before the ‘student loan drop’, we know the struggle is only temporary because our bank accounts will be well-endowed soon.

In some areas of life, this is not as easy a concept to master by simply speaking the positivity into existence. Deeper struggles like debt, a broken relationship or loss of a loved one don’t feel like temporary struggles. As long as you are on earth the struggle may remain, and may only get easier, but it is about finding peace in knowing that it does get better.

How do you find peace? You can find peace in prayer or reflection. Focusing on the trials and tribulations you’ve overcome, the good things you enjoy and the great things that are to come.

So, to round it off, whatever your struggle may be, remember that it is only temporary, it will get better (as long as you work on it, because there are not any fairy godmothers granting you wishes out here) and find peace to keep striving through your struggle.

2 Corinthians 4:17 (ESV)

For this light momentary affliction is preparing us for an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison

2 Corinthians 4:17 (NLT)

For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!

Remember…you are destined for greatness.